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	<title>Comments on: &#8220;The L Word,&#8221; and my anxiety over it</title>
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		<title>By: nic paton</title>
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		<dc:creator>nic paton</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Mon, 05 May 2008 13:37:41 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>Billy
I have been experimenting with the notion of "Curating".

The Worship Curator, instead of prescribing how worship should happen, fascilitates it, as emereging from a community.

The Community Curator, likewise, allows that community to shape itsself.

We can curate ideas, and ultimately even light - that which we don't lay claim to, but participate in. The Light Curator lets light reflect. They will affect it, in all ways, but the burden of origination is relieved.

The Curator trusts and reflects.</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Billy<br />
I have been experimenting with the notion of &#8220;Curating&#8221;.</p>
<p>The Worship Curator, instead of prescribing how worship should happen, fascilitates it, as emereging from a community.</p>
<p>The Community Curator, likewise, allows that community to shape itsself.</p>
<p>We can curate ideas, and ultimately even light - that which we don&#8217;t lay claim to, but participate in. The Light Curator lets light reflect. They will affect it, in all ways, but the burden of origination is relieved.</p>
<p>The Curator trusts and reflects.</p>
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		<title>By: onein6billion</title>
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		<pubDate>Mon, 31 Mar 2008 11:38:50 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>"God could ever get anything done in the world"

Of course any supernatural being could do anything he darn well wanted to.  And that's the problem.  If scientists tried doing experiments and kept getting different puzzling results, they would suspect devine interference.  But when they don't get different results, they assume that there is no interference from a supernatural being.</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>&#8220;God could ever get anything done in the world&#8221;</p>
<p>Of course any supernatural being could do anything he darn well wanted to.  And that&#8217;s the problem.  If scientists tried doing experiments and kept getting different puzzling results, they would suspect devine interference.  But when they don&#8217;t get different results, they assume that there is no interference from a supernatural being.</p>
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		<title>By: A Definition of Leadership &#171; Missio Dei</title>
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		<dc:creator>A Definition of Leadership &#171; Missio Dei</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Thu, 04 Oct 2007 16:21:29 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>[...] Billy Calderwood says, &#8221; “Leadership.” Through the lenses of my own personal history with various expressions of Christianty, this word has picked up good deal of baggage and has become something of a source of anxiety to me.&#8221; [...]</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>[...] Billy Calderwood says, &#8221; “Leadership.” Through the lenses of my own personal history with various expressions of Christianty, this word has picked up good deal of baggage and has become something of a source of anxiety to me.&#8221; [...]</p>
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		<title>By: billy</title>
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		<pubDate>Tue, 17 Jul 2007 22:41:34 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>Sherene, I really like the emphasis on example!</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Sherene, I really like the emphasis on example!</p>
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		<title>By: Sherene</title>
		<link>http://billycalderwood.com/?p=651#comment-13079</link>
		<dc:creator>Sherene</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Sun, 01 Jul 2007 17:58:25 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>Leadership can be a heavy word. I think we, as fallible humans, put a lot of weight on it and expectations are high. When I think of leadership, for myself, I used to fear it. But, God's plan is bigger than my limited thoughts and ideas and He has made it clear, many times, how He wants me to act on His Word. I trust that God has a much better sense of what leadership means and where He wants us to be and who we are to lead and how we are to lead. It doesn't mean we have to be perfect, because we can't be perfect. We're not supposed to be doing it all and trying to do it all on our own.   We are supposed to fear the Lord and obey Him and that is where we can accept leadership as He directs us. (I'm reading John Bevere's book right now, that is quite enlightening: "The Fear of the Lord".)

I have found that leadership doesn't have to be filled with anxiety or fear as long as I know He's the one leading me and not me trying to lead on my own. That's when fear and anxiousness can side-track what God has in mind. :-)

Leadership isn't just being a figure at the front of a group of people, it's also being an example to others. How we live, how we talk, how we touch people one-on-one. I think some people have a misconception that leadership is only being the central figure-head. I don't think it is. I think it's taking time to understand and soak in God's Word, then applying it to our lives and in so doing, influencing others by our example. I think we can all be classified as leaders in that sense, whether we are teachers or preachers or just that one person who listens and understands without judging or trying to 'fix' people, but just being who God needs us to be at that moment. And who obeys when God prompts us to step out of our comfort zone and do what He tells us to do without hesitation, like Abraham.</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Leadership can be a heavy word. I think we, as fallible humans, put a lot of weight on it and expectations are high. When I think of leadership, for myself, I used to fear it. But, God&#8217;s plan is bigger than my limited thoughts and ideas and He has made it clear, many times, how He wants me to act on His Word. I trust that God has a much better sense of what leadership means and where He wants us to be and who we are to lead and how we are to lead. It doesn&#8217;t mean we have to be perfect, because we can&#8217;t be perfect. We&#8217;re not supposed to be doing it all and trying to do it all on our own.   We are supposed to fear the Lord and obey Him and that is where we can accept leadership as He directs us. (I&#8217;m reading John Bevere&#8217;s book right now, that is quite enlightening: &#8220;The Fear of the Lord&#8221;.)</p>
<p>I have found that leadership doesn&#8217;t have to be filled with anxiety or fear as long as I know He&#8217;s the one leading me and not me trying to lead on my own. That&#8217;s when fear and anxiousness can side-track what God has in mind. <img src='http://billycalderwood.com/wp-includes/images/smilies/icon_smile.gif' alt=':-)' class='wp-smiley' /><br />
Leadership isn&#8217;t just being a figure at the front of a group of people, it&#8217;s also being an example to others. How we live, how we talk, how we touch people one-on-one. I think some people have a misconception that leadership is only being the central figure-head. I don&#8217;t think it is. I think it&#8217;s taking time to understand and soak in God&#8217;s Word, then applying it to our lives and in so doing, influencing others by our example. I think we can all be classified as leaders in that sense, whether we are teachers or preachers or just that one person who listens and understands without judging or trying to &#8216;fix&#8217; people, but just being who God needs us to be at that moment. And who obeys when God prompts us to step out of our comfort zone and do what He tells us to do without hesitation, like Abraham.</p>
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		<title>By: billy</title>
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		<pubDate>Fri, 29 Jun 2007 07:16:49 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>George I tend to agree with your assessment and description of leadership.  

Marieke, you are very kind and encouraging!</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>George I tend to agree with your assessment and description of leadership.  </p>
<p>Marieke, you are very kind and encouraging!</p>
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		<title>By: Marieke</title>
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		<dc:creator>Marieke</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Thu, 28 Jun 2007 23:26:46 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>I know that community is something you highly value, and I think that may be the key thing in terms of your worldview. I know that you and Kristin and heavily influenced me and my relationship with God, not so much because of things you say (although that definitely plays a role), but because I know you - I've been in your home, I've seen you interact as a family, I've seen the sacrifices you make. I know you're not perfect, but that your hearts are searching after God, loving him and loving the people around you.

I think that has been the biggest influence. I see how you sacrifice yourself for others, how you are open to change and influence from God and the people around you, and it encourages me to strive towards that in my own life.

At the same time, I do wrestle with what it means to be a leader to those around me, both "officially" (at work) and unofficially (with the people around me). In Acts, it seems like there are both types of leaders as well...those in specific, named positions (ie: Philip and the others chosen specifically to organize the provisions for the widows and orphans, Timothy as a pastor), as well as unnamed (those who hosted meetings in their homes, or simply ministered to those around them).

At the same time, I'm currently wrestling with my thoughts on the institutional church in general (particularly as it's expressed in Western culture), so it's all tied in.

I swear sometimes we must share a brain because I roll things around in my  head till it starts to hurt too! I don't know if I've made much sense, but there's my stream of consciousness on the subject :)</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>I know that community is something you highly value, and I think that may be the key thing in terms of your worldview. I know that you and Kristin and heavily influenced me and my relationship with God, not so much because of things you say (although that definitely plays a role), but because I know you - I&#8217;ve been in your home, I&#8217;ve seen you interact as a family, I&#8217;ve seen the sacrifices you make. I know you&#8217;re not perfect, but that your hearts are searching after God, loving him and loving the people around you.</p>
<p>I think that has been the biggest influence. I see how you sacrifice yourself for others, how you are open to change and influence from God and the people around you, and it encourages me to strive towards that in my own life.</p>
<p>At the same time, I do wrestle with what it means to be a leader to those around me, both &#8220;officially&#8221; (at work) and unofficially (with the people around me). In Acts, it seems like there are both types of leaders as well&#8230;those in specific, named positions (ie: Philip and the others chosen specifically to organize the provisions for the widows and orphans, Timothy as a pastor), as well as unnamed (those who hosted meetings in their homes, or simply ministered to those around them).</p>
<p>At the same time, I&#8217;m currently wrestling with my thoughts on the institutional church in general (particularly as it&#8217;s expressed in Western culture), so it&#8217;s all tied in.</p>
<p>I swear sometimes we must share a brain because I roll things around in my  head till it starts to hurt too! I don&#8217;t know if I&#8217;ve made much sense, but there&#8217;s my stream of consciousness on the subject <img src='http://billycalderwood.com/wp-includes/images/smilies/icon_smile.gif' alt=':)' class='wp-smiley' /></p>
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		<title>By: George P. Wood</title>
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		<dc:creator>George P. Wood</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Tue, 26 Jun 2007 23:04:07 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>Billy:

John Maxwell once defined leadership as "influence." In my opinion, this may help resolve some of your anxiety over leadership because it moves the question of leadership from hierarchy and structure to results and relationships. A leader, in other words, is not a person with a title or a slot on an org chart but a person with people who willingly follow him (or her). It also helps us realize that a church has multiple leaders precisely because it has multiple influencers.

Your anxiety over leadership probably stems from the unfortunate fact that many people who hold positions of leadership are not persons of influence. There's a great scene in Tom Sawyer that illustrates the difference. Aunt Polly commands Tom Sawyer to whitewash the fence. He hems, haws, and drags his feet to accomplish the task. But then he lights on an idea. He finds a way (admittedly devious) to get his friends to whitewash the fence by trading trinkets with them for the privilege. In the end, they choose to whitewash the fence because they think it is a personally valuable exercise. Too many pastors try to lead by command rather than by finding what motivates followers to choose to do the right thing. Command-leadership can lead to authoritarianism. Choice-leadership is real influence.

Of course, there are moments in the leader's life when he (or she) has to rely on command. In some situations, there is an asymmetry of knowledge and a shortage of time. The leader simply does not have time to explain and motivate his (or her) followers. A good example of this is a lieutinant leading troops in battle. But, of course, most troops will only follow such a lieutinant because he has given them reason to think he is worth following when they are not in the heat of battle.

So, authentic leadership is the ability to influence personal choice, with a concession that sometimes (rarely?) command is necessary.

George</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Billy:</p>
<p>John Maxwell once defined leadership as &#8220;influence.&#8221; In my opinion, this may help resolve some of your anxiety over leadership because it moves the question of leadership from hierarchy and structure to results and relationships. A leader, in other words, is not a person with a title or a slot on an org chart but a person with people who willingly follow him (or her). It also helps us realize that a church has multiple leaders precisely because it has multiple influencers.</p>
<p>Your anxiety over leadership probably stems from the unfortunate fact that many people who hold positions of leadership are not persons of influence. There&#8217;s a great scene in Tom Sawyer that illustrates the difference. Aunt Polly commands Tom Sawyer to whitewash the fence. He hems, haws, and drags his feet to accomplish the task. But then he lights on an idea. He finds a way (admittedly devious) to get his friends to whitewash the fence by trading trinkets with them for the privilege. In the end, they choose to whitewash the fence because they think it is a personally valuable exercise. Too many pastors try to lead by command rather than by finding what motivates followers to choose to do the right thing. Command-leadership can lead to authoritarianism. Choice-leadership is real influence.</p>
<p>Of course, there are moments in the leader&#8217;s life when he (or she) has to rely on command. In some situations, there is an asymmetry of knowledge and a shortage of time. The leader simply does not have time to explain and motivate his (or her) followers. A good example of this is a lieutinant leading troops in battle. But, of course, most troops will only follow such a lieutinant because he has given them reason to think he is worth following when they are not in the heat of battle.</p>
<p>So, authentic leadership is the ability to influence personal choice, with a concession that sometimes (rarely?) command is necessary.</p>
<p>George</p>
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